Guns in Households: What To Do When Your Spouse Hates Guns

Chris Sajnog advises on what to do if your wife hates firearms.

Hi, I’m retired Navy SEAL Chris Sajnog, author of Navy SEAL Shooting, and one of the top 20 most frequently asked questions I get is, “My spouse hates guns, what can I do?” Alright, so I was not happy when I saw this one made the top 20 FAQ list, but a lot of people ask this question about guns in households, so I’m going to answer it.

Find Out The ‘Why’

Alright, so number one on that list is to find out why don’t they like firearms. Find out:

  1. Did something happen that they’re afraid of? 
  2. Did they read something? 
  3. Are they misinformed about something? 

Find out what it is. Whenever you ask questions, that’s the only way to ever find answers. Once you know, well, now you can start trying to make it better. So go ahead and find out why.

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Go Slow

Number two on the list is simply going slow. You don’t want to go out and buy a gun without asking them first. That’s only going to build up resistance and walls to your master plan. 

If you want to be successful and happy in this relationship, just take your time. Give them time to get used to the idea of having a firearm around. 

Show That You Are Safe

Alright, number three about guns in households is to demonstrate to them that you are safe. Let them know you’re going to training courses. If you can show that person that you are the one in control of that firearm, then that is going to make it a lot easier

 

Show That The Gun Is Safe

Along those same lines, you want to show them how you’re actually going to secure the firearm. This means showing them that the gun is in a safe place, and nobody can get to it except for you. That’s what they need to feel safe with a firearm in the house. 

Get Them Involved

And last but not least, get them involved. It’s like teaching kids how to cook. There are things they don’t want to eat like broccoli or vegetables. But, if I can get them to cook the vegetables, they will eat them. 

So it’s the same thing with firearms. Maybe they just want to feel comfortable handling the firearm themselves, and who better to train with than your spouse? 

That is it for today’s FAQ about guns in households. Try these five techniques to help you, your spouse, and your firearms live happily ever after. Please check out my other 19 five and under-five FAQ posts and videos to continue paving your path to perfection

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Retired Navy SEAL Dr. Chris Sajnog, a Master Training Specialist in the Navy, was hand-selected to write the US Navy SEAL Sniper Manual. After retiring from the Navy in 2009, he earned a master’s (MSc) in Health and Human Performace and a doctorate (D.Sc.) in Applied Educational Neuroscience.

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